20 Ways To Be Your Best Self in 2020 and Beyond!

Self-Improvement and Personal Development are two great “sciences” I am passionate about and of course the ‘’bane’’ on which this blog lies. Today, I did like to share with you 20 ways to be your best self in 2020 and beyond.

Another decade is rushing right in and you need to plan for it!

you are not improving any area of your life one way or the other, daily, you
are doing yourself a disservice!

you are!


saying that you die the day you stop learning is a truth that should be your
guiding principle.

Write it down and stick it in front of your mirror alongside your list of AFFIRMATIONS and say it yourself every day.

want to be my best self. I want to improve every day. I don’t know about you
but if you are keen on Self Improvement and Personal Development like I am,
then read on!

Why Self Improvement and Personal Development?

How does being a stagnant year in, year out sound like?


if wishes were horses, we did all be riding them.


wishes are not horses.


all have to make deliberate and conscious efforts to better our lives in every
way imaginable. Physically, mentally, financially, and all the “lly” in

is where Self Improvement and Personal Development comes in.

want to see your life getting better and better? Do you want to see every part
of your life experiencing positive changes?

Then you are thinking about Self Improvement and Personal Development.

a great start.

about improving your life, that is.

Self Improvement as the name implies is the efforts you make to change your life. Personal efforts. Done by yourself.

changing your mindset to improving an aspect of your life

It is about learning new things to make yourself more skilled and able according to the Cambridge definition.

is usually a thin line between Self Improvement and Personal Development.

Personal Development takes more effort and requires external help which could be by way of training (professional or otherwise)

Now that we have the reasons why you should practice Self Improvement and Personal Development out of the way, I would like to dive right into 20 things you should be doing to be your best self in 2020 and beyond

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1. Read A Book Every Day

A must-do of the 20 ways to be your best in 2020, reading takes the cake for me!

One way you can live your best life in 2020 and beyond is by reading. I believe this is emphasized in almost all my blog posts on here and even on my social media handles like Facebook and Instagram.

Just click on the highlighted text to check them out.

yes, reading should top the things you should be doing in 2020 and of course
beyond that.

are lots of books on Self Help, Self Improvement and Personal Development out

Westra books are some of the best out there and you should absolutely get some.
I have the best three of her books that you can buy. Just click on 3 Self
Improvement books for a better you text highlighted below to buy!

3 Self Improvement Books For A Better You!

If you feel reading these sorts of books daily may bore you, by all means, juggle it.

The idea is to learn something every day

2. Start A Journal

know those teenage years when you had a girly book and write all the guys you
are crushing on and all your hate for Miss popular?


those years!

that as an adult

not to write about crushes and miss popular lol.

is the easiest way for self-discovery and self-awareness

gives you an opportunity to know and understand yourself more.

What tickles you, triggers you and mellow you.

that grand?

There are lots of Journaling Prompts on Pinterest and my Journal Prompts Board is a great way to start!

3. Practice Self Love & Self Care

you are not yet a believer of Self Love, this buddha quote will perhaps make
you join in the Self Love “bandwagon”

“You, yourself , as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”

There are several ways to practice self-love and my blog post 101 Ways to Love Yourself is the best place to start.

Related: Is Self Love A Delusional Concept?

4. Use Affirmations More!

power of affirmations is so undervalued and underappreciated, it is no wonder
people miss out on the advantages of using them regularly!

Affirmations are powerful and wonderful mantras to spur yourself into reaching your goals.

Words like, “I can” and “I will” have changed more lives than you can ever imagine!

Yes, they are Affirmations and I have got just the ones you need for just about every aspect of your life! Just click on the links below and read! Related: 101 Amazing Affirmations For A Better You!

This here is of my favorite of the amazing 20 ways to be your best self in 2020!

5. Do Not Let Anyone Get Comfortable Disrespecting you!

you read that right.

not let anyone get comfortable disrespecting you!

If you have hitherto been the proverbial floor mat or wallflower, girl, it is time to get out the “rut”

take that with you to 2020 and the rest of your life!

up and kick ass!

Do not let your Self Confidence and Self Esteem take a bashing from just about every Tom, Dick, and Harry.

No! You can’t be a doormat. Not on my watch!

not let any narcissist feed off your “good” to turn you into what you shouldn’t

let anyone get away with disrespecting you at home or at work.

them politely, they shouldn’t but the POLITE SHOULD BE STRONG!

your message across and firmly. You won’t allow them to disrespect you in any

Now that is one kick-ass way to be your best self and a kick-ass boss babe attitude to take with you to 2020 and for the rest of your life!

Related: 15 Secret Self Confidence Boosters You Need To Know!

Related: 7 Strategies To Build Your Self Esteem

6. Get A Mentor or Life Coach

have had mentors but never a life coach and I am looking into “getting” one
before the end of the year.

should have someone who motivates and drives you to be your better self.

am lucky to have someone who believes in me and help drive me towards improving
myself every day and achieving my goals

is super awesome and a great mentor who shows and leads by example.

more can a girl ask for?

is ideal to have someone who gives you that extra boost we all seem to need.

life coach will help figure out what you truly want to do with your life and
then map out the path to achieving that.

Related: 9 Companies with Solid Mentorship Program

7. Start That Exercise Routine You Keep Putting Off!

We all get old. It is a sign that you are living longer. It is. We age.

is beautiful because you get to spend more time being with loved ones and
having time to also pursue your dreams.

But aging comes with its own worries. Stiff bones, stiff muscles, ailments, and other unsavory things.

We can, however, reduce the effects of aging on our bodies by adopting healthy lifestyles and one of the ways we do that is by exercising.

don’t have to wait till you are FIFTY before
you start exercising.

now, continue in 2020 and beyond

body will thank you for it!

for resources on healthy lifestyle hacks and tips?

got exactly what you need!

Head on to my PINTEREST BOARD for exercise videos, downloadable pdf exercise routines you can save on your devices, and tips and hacks to keep you forever young!

you don’t take care of yourself, who will?

Related: 10 Things You Should Do Before You Are 50!

habits are one of the 20 ways to be your best self in 2020 and beyond.

8. Hone Good Habits

habits are one of the 20 ways to be your best self in 2020 and beyond.

Create good habits.

Creating good habits is very necessary to be our best self. They help keep us motivated through discipline towards pursuing and achieving our goals.

It takes time, effort and repetition to create good habits. It is, therefore, best to start with one at a time, master it and when it becomes second nature, you can then start learning a new one.

goal here is to make lifestyle changes that will enhance your life and keep you
grounded even in the face of doubts.

Related: 10 Good Habits That Will Completely Transform Your Life

Related: I0 Best Productivity Apps To Smash Your Every Day!

9. Explore New Things

I think one of the reasons we feel life isn’t good for us or going our way is because we are stuck in “one place” doing one thing over and over again.

we are stuck in a particular environment that we have either refused to change
or see differently.

we don’t understand how to be different and do something else.

worked at a job for close to 10 years and one day decided that I was tired of
it and my environment and needed a complete change.


any job offer on the horizon!

packed my bags and went off to London after spending some time in Dublin

was mad fun even though things didn’t exactly go as I had planned.

became an “exploration’’ for me and yes, I came to understand some things on a
deeper level and also understood myself better.

should strive to explore new things.

Come out of our comfort zones.

This would be one of my favourite of the 20 ways to be your best self in 2020!

a trip! Soak up new culturesExplore your environment. See it through the eyes
of a visitor (best way to see new things!)

new things. Take up new courses. Eat something different.

you aren’t taking anything with you to 2020 and beyond, exploring new things
should be one of the things you should take as a way to be your best self

Related: How To See Yourself In A New Light

10. Learn Emotional Intelligence

Number 10 is an absolute must-do of the 20 ways to be your best self in 2020!

is Emotional Intelligence?

Emotional Intelligence is the Other Kind of SMART

am the type that wears her emotions on her sleeve. Literally speaking.

is not a game I can ever win at! LOL.

it has its advantages, often than not, it causes problems for me.

it does.

have this tendency of allowing everything we experience, affect us to the extent
that we become defensive even when we are right.

is sad.

is where emotional intelligence comes into play.

Emotional intelligence (EI) affects the quality of our social interactions with our peers which in turn impacts the quality of life.

went for a course in Emotional Intelligence back in 2018 and it changed my
thought processes.

am not where I’d like to be or should be when it comes to EI but I am improving
every day and that is the beauty of life.

Learning emotional intelligence is one of the things I absolutely taking me
into 2020 and beyond for my best self ever!

Learning Emotional intelligence will not only improve the quality of your social interactions with peers, but it will also improve your work-life balance and greatly improve the quality of your life.

A great quote that sums up Emotional Intelligence would be one from my favorite women, Maya AngelouThere are lots of resources to get you started on EI and my best one is Talentsmart

”People will forget what you said and what you did, but they will never forget how you made them feel.”

11. Stop Being A People Pleaser!

One of my favorite of the 20 ways to be your best self in 2020, would be this one.

I hate when we are forced to be people pleasers!

to be your best self in 2020 and beyond?

Then stop being a people pleaser!

need to stop being a people pleaser if you want to be your best self, darling!

the fine “art” of saying NO!  instead of
saying YES because you want to please people to the detriment of your

say yes to things you’d rather say NO to.

It leads to unhappiness and everyone takes advantage of your ‘’ miss good’’ nature to screw you over.

my language.

to let you know how this habit and nature can absolutely ruin your life (both
at home and work) if you are not careful.

Learn to say No. It will help you be your best self!

12. Practice Gratitude

are so focused on the things we don’t have yet that we forget to be thankful
for the things we have.

saying “when there is life, there is hope” may sound and seem very mundane but
it is actually very powerful!

have life and there is every possibility of getting and achieving the things
you desire by working on yourself.

of the ways to be your best self now and beyond is by learning and practicing

is a science and practicing it will change your life in ways you never ever

benefits of practicing gratitude are numerous and include, having more positive
energy (from being positive and thankful for the things you have), less stress,
have more compassion for self and others around you, stronger immune system to
mention but a few.

Lifehack has great resources on how to practice gratitude.

13. Start A Side Business

did mention earlier that comfort zones are beautiful places, but nothing ever
grows in them.

curse of the 9 to 5 is so much, we literally don’t see beyond our noses.


me about it. Sigh.

is great that you have a job, but do you know true wealth comes only from being
in business for yourself?

don’t know about you, but I want to live a more than comfortable life, be very rich
and leave enough for my kids and hopefully their own kids too.

legacy that will transcend generations.

is my dream and if it is yours too, then one of the ways to be your best self
in 2020 and beyond is to start a side hustle.

side hustle is a ‘’business’’ you do besides your 9 to 5 to bring in extra cash
and even eventually quit your regular job if it turns out to be very lucrative!

There are lots of side-hustles out there. You could start a blog (check this out for resources on how to start a blog and make money), be a virtual assistant, do transcription jobs, online test surveys, etc. etc.

There are lots of side hustles you can make thousands of dollars from!


For more ideas on side hustles and how to get started right away, check out my Pinterest Board

14. Learn A New Skill

way to be your best self is by learning a new skill.

need to evolve every day if we want to be our best self in 2020 and beyond and
a new skill is another great way.

The skill could be work/career-related that could improve your productivity and enhance skills you already possess or something that will add more beauty/breathe a new to your home and/or relationship.

Developing Good Habits has this huge list of skills you should absolutely check out!

This here number 14 of the 20 ways to be your best self in 2020, is one you shouldn't take lightly!

Learn a skill!

  1. Give
    Back To Society

15. Give Back To Society

We not only become our best selves when we give but we also “make” others be their best selves also!

There is a feeling of fulfillment that comes with giving.

are touching lives. Improving lives. Giving hope.

I always say giving isn’t all about money. Just being there for someone when they are down, lending a helping hand, lending your voice to a worthy course, fulfilling someone's wish are all forms of giving.

the Red Cross, Community service, and any charity organization around you.

You have money to spare? Great! Invest it in someone’s future!

Another of my favorite of the 20 ways to be your best self in 2020!

16. Develop Your Mental Strength

you ever wondered how some people keep at a thing for years (despite and in
spite of different challenges they may face) before they achieve success while
others give up without barely trying?

difference between those two examples is their mental strength and toughness.

To succeed in life, you need to develop your mental strength and there are studies that have proved that mental toughness and strength are critical to achieving success in life.

Motivation will not always be there, there will always be times when we will feel like giving up and throwing in the towel when self-doubts will hit us from everywhere but when you develop your mental strength, it becomes the difference between winning and losing.

Related: 10 Things Mentally Strong People Do Not Do!

17. Use To-Do Lists

I absolutely love To-Do lists! They fantastically, fantastic!

wants to dash down to the Grocery shop only to forget the most essential item
one needs?

perhaps miss something important at the office?

wouldn’t be nice, would it?

Writing down a list of the things you want to do is a great way to harness the power of To-Do lists?

If you are not using a To-Do list, you absolutely need to start now and take that habit into 2020 and beyond.

They are lifesavers and they will make be the superwoman and of course the kinging queen that you should be!

Related: 16 Super Life Hacks To Drastically Improve Your Productivity

18. Avoid Negative People

will bring you down faster than negative people.

was recently talking with someone I considered a friend and mentioned some of
my dreams and aspirations.

scoffed. Then laughed.

deleted everything that has to do with him in my life.

After I gave him a piece of my mind. He wasn’t going to go scot-free

do not tolerate people who put me down in any way. Ever!

to go, sister!

criticism is allowed but never negativism. Never, ever.

is time to do away with every negative person around you. Doesn’t matter if
they are friends or family.

Don’t carry that baggage into 2020, darling!

19. Overcome Your Fears!

of the ways to be your best self is overcoming your fears

is a joy killer. Tell me about it!

will strip everything and everyone from you.

away your dreams and hopes.

You won’t have dreams and hopes.

A life lived with and in fear, is no life and that is why you need to overcome the fear so as to ensure that you live a great and quality life.

Don’t know how to overcome your fears? My personal story on overcoming fears is a great guide! See it below. Click and voila, you get to see how I overcame my fears.

Related: How to OVERCOME FEAR

20. Commit To Your Best Self Goals!

to improve ourselves is great but commitment is what makes it “happen”.

takes discipline.

be disciplined.

Set SMART GOALS on the journey to being the best version of yourself.

keep at those goals like a dog with a bone!

will come!


Related: 20 Tips For Personal Development

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Wow! Amazing 20 ways to be your best self in 2020 and beyond! If I do say so myself! What else would you add to the list? Let’s share ideas! Head on to comment sections and talk with me.

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Hi, my name is Jennifer. I am an Engineer by day and a blogger 24/7. I am passionate about Self Improvement & Productivity and this blog is dedicated to that passion! I hope you find it worthwhile each time you visit! If you do find anything helpful on here, kindly share because sharing is caring!

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  1. April 3, 2020 / 5:27 pm

    I love these ideas! This too is my goal for 2020 and beyond is being the best I can be!

    • April 3, 2020 / 8:00 pm

      Thank you, Chenise! I love them too! Thanks for joining the conversation!

  2. January 29, 2020 / 12:45 pm

    I love these ideas! There are so many ways we can continue or begin to come into our best self and, like many things, one size doesn’t fit all!
    Personally I use SMART goals/targets in every walk of life because it helps break things down and can help us find out what we need to do in order to move forward.

  3. Anonymous
    November 13, 2019 / 6:22 am

    I totally agree with you, learning to say no is the best favour you can ever do to yourself.


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